That's my life lesson re-learned for today.
One day maybe it will sink in.
I'm not perfect and I can't expect those around me to be.
We're having issues with "My Favorite Tech' (MVT) again at work and things are getting ugly. I am the dispatcher/office manager; the problems that need to be addressed with MVT lay at the feet of Partners business partner. He is the Service Manager. It's his job to train/correct this yahoo to do the right thing on the job. MVT is a hotshot from California who walks around like he is the cock-of-the-walk but in reality he sucks. He can't fix a damned thing. Well that's maybe a bit to harsh. He's doing what he can do. He does call out for help but he really isn't getting the support he needs. I can't do it because this isn't the industry (HVAC - I come from Telecom)) that I am trained in. I can schedule/dispatch and invoice, but I can't tell you how to change out a coil on an A/C unit. That kind of training is up to the Service Manager, which is Partner's business partner responsibility.
Side Note: I'll drop the references to 'Partner' my partner is Jay and there's no reason for the pretense.
Anyway...
I have to step back from my perception of the 'issues' and think about the other people involved. We're two married couples working as a team. It's a weird working dynamic. I've bitched about it before, but the wife of Jay's business partner will not deal with me directly if there's any issue that she perceives as contentious. She will address it with her husband, who will address it with Jay, rather then talking to me directly. She's the Queen of passive aggressiveness. This creates more then a few issues.
But I digress.
We all have our issues. I'm not perfect and I have to try and understand where other people in my life are coming from. I thought I'd learned this lesson long ago. Then when I think back I find I have to re-learn this time and time again. Does it ever get better? Does the knowledge ever stick? Is it me?
What I do know tonight is that it's ok. Life will not end and no one is going to take away my birthday. We all have to work together to move the boulder up the hill.
I've been a bad blogger. So here are a few shout outs.
Soul - When I read your post this morning, I could so relate to the company that sent your 200-year-old service tech. In their defense, good techs are hard to find - REALLY HARD TO FIND!
Simon, , If only I had the budget to move you & Mark to Seattle I would do it in a heart beat. Good Lord I need good people like you.
fiwa, You give out the best lovin's around.
To everyone else I feel guilty about not visiting you sooner but I'm feeling better and will catch up with you soon.
P.S. Summer, I love you.
P.S.S. Crusty Beef and I are starting up a new blog feature called "Ask Man-Stump" 
If your interested in Man-Stump's advice send your questions here. We'll do our best.
Wednesday, April 02, 2008
No One Ever Said Life Is Fair
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I seem to go in 7 year patterns on learning lessons. I know what you mean though, I am the same way. I expect everyone around me to act a certain way, do things a certain way, (my way) and it sends me into a tizzy sometimes when they don't. It's hard to sit back and make yourself realize your way isn't the only way.
Regarding ManStump, what kinds of questions will he answer? Is this a dear abby sort of ManStump? Or is he a tooltime sort of guy?
Hang in there at work m'dear. As long as you work with people, you will have weirdness.
feelbetterlovins,
fiwa
Man Stump is all up for any question - try us.
Maybe the tech can find some instructions on the web. Just google it. LOL
Every place I've ever worked that had people married or involved or related there had a weird dynamic. That's always strange.
I never learn any lessons. With two exceptions, the stove is hot and never give advice. You've got a tough situation there.
You made me cry this morning. I love you too my Bradley.
Dear Manstump:
How come you get to wear nakeds and I have to put on pull ups and pj bottoms?
from,
a 3 year old boy-Sulli. :)
Working with your love is so difficult! I admire people that do that-Jaime is one, and my parents too. They've owned a business for years and I just don't know how they do it..but like you said, you just do. You know you're having a birthday, you know tomorrow is something else, and suddenly everything else seems better.
You are NOT a bad blogger..you are a sweet caring friend. Stop beating yourself up...let the Manstump take over. :)
Telecom...LOVE That industry! B2b telcom is the bomb...woops..prolly can't say that anymore. :)
Always,
Elizabeth
There's some things you just know and it's so hard to figure out why everyone else doesn't see it. Or fix it when it's their job. But that's life, like you said.
Personally, I think manstump is kind of hot. For an inanimate object. I'm trying to think of a appropriate question, but my mind is in the gutter right now.
Dear ManStump, I see that after the next few days of sun, we are in for rain,rain,rain. Do you have any advice for battling the rainyday blues?
Signed,
Moldy in Seattle
Mo gets no shout out? *insert Pouty face*
Kidding honey. :)
I can't wait for the manstump to be up and running. "Oh wise ManStump, will..."
If you need me to come beaotchslap the wife, you let me know. I can have a sharp tongue in a respectful when needed. They don't call me Ice Princess for nothing.
(((HUGS)))
Sheesh, I must slow down. I meant to write in a respectful way.
Fiwa, Friends. They take away the rainy day blues.
Sorry you're having tensions at work. Just PLEASE don't bring them home with you. You and Jay have too much time invested to let work tensions drag you down. I think its just that time of year. March madness and all. I'm about ready to tear the throat out of something myself and usually I'm a pretty mellow person.
It'll all get better.....it always does, one way or another.
Stay mellow sweets.
p.s. don't feel guilty about not posting...you were SICK for cryin' out loud! Feel better real soon.
First off, I get so frustrated with passive aggressive sorts. Irritating.
You seem to be handling things well... just keep getting it out, don't let it simmer inside, its never a good thing. You and Jay will find the rhythm that works.
Dear ManStump, How can I get my freckles to disappear? They are annoying me.
Brad, you are an awesome blogger, cuz you give out the love and encouragement so well!
oh wait til ya read about the second estimate people that came out.
ugh.
i think we will be some roasted souls before the thing gets repaired.
happy thursday
Ha! So Washingtonians hate Californians as much as Oregonians do.
...who doesn't? Sounds like Coloradans are in there with us as well.
:)
Hmmm...
I'll have to think on a good question for ManStump. He could pass as a revered Incan sage in a past life...have him come join Mama Llama down here in Machu Picchu. The locals would get a real kick out of that, and the tourists would pay big bucks for those tidbits of wisdom!
Be well, Brad.
Dear ManStump - you are quite the hottie! I wish you would give my darling Brad a little support. He's so alone out there in the world of assholes. I, by the way, am not one. Now Brad, I think you ARE perfect. As am I, along with Miss Piggy who is also perfect (according to herself). Only problem with me is I can't sleep, so I'm up reading you. I am trying to get drunk so I can fall asleep (perfectly).xoxoxo.
You know what Brad - I too wish that we were closer together on this damned planet, I would have you and Jay and Manstump to dinner. AND, I would ask no questions of any of you...LOL.
You are a wonderful guy. Just so you know. :)
Dear Man Stump:
How did they fit that bathtub in the back of the limosine in the Calgon commercials?
Brad: Born and raised in Medford, did 4 years undergrad in Forest Grove after that.
Manstump: How did a Western flower like me end up getting suckered into getting stuck in this Eastern land...and how on EARTH can I get back closer to Home? :) Oh, and I've tried the red ruby slippers--that is just a myth.
Be well, you two!
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