So, Partner is on day three of his full on trip down spring '08 Flu-a-palozza lane. When I got it last week he was really kind of riding me to 'man up' and get into the office. There's a bit of unspoken competition on which couple is really serving the business best. Don't ask me to explain it. I didn't start it and I don't get it.
He was riding me hard last week to get out of bed and go to work. It ticked me off at the time, but knowing him and knowing how bad I felt I waved him off with a one finger wave. The fact that he is sick as a dog makes me sympathetic but only to a degree.
He commented last night that he was sorry that he wasn't more sympathetic to me when I was sick. I would normally have responded with an "Ok that's ok, I understand" What he got was a blunt "No you were not, and you might want to remember that in future" He look a bit surprised. I think he thought he was still operating under the guise of sick boy.
I left the room. I'm never putting up with that shit again.
I'm sorry, but when he and hi Bus. partner come out and tell Me and wife of business partner that we're are equal owners we both no it's crap. It's a nice tool for them to use when they want compliance but it's still crap. He and his business partner call the shots when it comes right down to it and that is how it should be. They know the business better than we. Just don't think we're going to buy you BS.
I am dedication to the business. And this hacks me off. I'm as dedicated as anyone. In fact more is expected of me then others. I'll stop there. I'm starting to get myself worked up. Clearly I have some issue to tell him about once I find a positive way to say it.
What I have believed for a long time is that if your sick....STAY AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE! Don't come to work and be a "Hero". YOUR NOT! your getting everyone else sick to. Stay Home.
I know our perspectives are different. He is truly an owner and gets to make decisions that effect me and my counter part. But I get sick of being told "well your a partner too". Um, No. When I can tell you your idea is crap, and not just have to keep my mouth shut while your plan (which I disagree with) has to play out so you 'get' what I all ready told you...
Ok, the self edit mode finally kicked in. I won't erase that because it's coming from somewhere I didn't quite know about. Sorry for the rant blog.
I love him. But he pisses me off at time.
Especially when I have to pull double farm duty because he's laying around....
Oh yeah...that's were we came in.
I've always been a bit of a bundle of irony & contradictions.
On other fronts, Bear is now into his third week of having someone home with him everyday during the day for three weeks. I wonder how this is going to manifest it's self as far as doggie dis-obedience once all is back to normal ?
I'm irritable, I'm cranky and probably shouldn't be posting. But there ya go.
I'm sorry the editing here is crap, I just don't have the energy to do the post justice. But if I don't just put it up, I'll save it as draft and it will never see the light of day. Take it all with a grain of salt and thank you for listening.
P.S. I keep finding dead bees in weird spots. It shouldn't be happening this time of year. It's kinda scaring me about the bee populations. Keep your eyes open and report to your local county extension agent if you see this happening. I've been reading about the issue in the last year or so, but now it's happening in my own yard. Scary.
XOXO to you all - BC
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Daily Grumble
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What could the dead bee thing mean? I always think a dead bee is better then a live one. :)
I'm supposedly a partner too, until I voice an overly strong opinion. I do understand. And you're right, waiting for a time of peace to bring things up is probably best.
I hope partner gets better soon, it's such a miserable time. I firmly believe in keeping germs to yourself, so tie him down if you have to. You don't need another strain of it, thats for sure!
Big hugs...
It's always interesting how partners view us when we're sick, how we handle our sickness and how they handle our sickness.
There are some that launch into fullblown caretaker mode willing to nurse us back to health, and then there are others that fear illness with all their will and shy from it because seeing their loved one so sick makes them fear the lack of control they have over the situation, therefore they end up taking it out on the sick patient instead.
I've seen many that manage both ways.
And karma does play a factor.
Either way when someone is sick it's not a pleasant sight, it really throws off the balance of a relationship, in sickness and in health, well, health is so much easier to deal with. It never ceases to amaze me at the people that are remarkable caretakers to their loved ones that are say, terminal. Talk about sheer dedication.
Sounds like you needed to burn some steam, and that's a good thing. I hope you feel better too, it doesn't sound like you're 100% yet.
And that your Partner feels better soon too...yuck the damn flu!
Bee's dying? I would be concerned too, makes me think of that one movie, naturally I can't recall the title but it had something to do with the shift between global warming, and temps and death and airborne viruses.
Tie him down! HAHAH..! I like that Kelly!
happy Hump day Brad!
I hope today is a bit better!
Love,
Elizabeth
It's always good to rant once in a while and this is the perfect place to do that.
I think sick people should stay home too. I got that stupid flu from my husband who picked it up from someone he works with. It got passed around the whole office.
I haven't seen any bees around here yet. We usually have a lot of those big bumble bees.
I wish I could rant freely, but who I'd want to rant about reads my blog and isn't grown up enough to deal with it. Oh well. There's the ups and downs, right? Best to talk to us about it till you get it right. Things will get back to usual soon. The last time I was sick Bonnie came over and brought me a care package. That was so great...being single means you always take care of yourself.
Happy days are ahead *:)
There is nothing wrong with vengenance. Glad to hear you made a full recovery. Hopefully partner will too.......now keep the sharp sticks away from him, no poking the sick person.
Oh yeah, I'm all for staying your sick butt at home. In fact, someone should check me for a fever now, I should go home
Rant away, Brad! My husband is the same way when I'm sick. It just doesn't occur to him that I might need some TLC from him. Ah well, we take the good with the bad. Scary about the bees. Isn't there a parasite that's attacking hives? I read about that somewhere?
It always helps to have someone to vent to...and I'm glad you think of us as friends that you can be honest with. Don't apologize for heaven's sake. We all have days like yours...honest! I agree totally about not going to work sick. I caught that crap from someone at work and was sick for weeks with it. Now if someone comes around me sniffling...I say "get the hell away from me!!" and mean it!
Bees dying. Good Lord...isn't that a sign that the killer bees are in town? Seriously. Just the thought of them scares the crap out of me. Make one mad and they send out a signal and pretty soon you're covered with them, being stung to death. Be careful out there....it truly IS a jungle. Last I heard they were in Texas and parts of California, moving north.
Hugs...
I really, really DO understand all sides of what you are saying. And perhaps you don't care and don't want the comments to be about the post, but I have to say..what a kind and good guy you are.
I remember reading here on your blog somewhere that the two of you are pretty long term, and have many years behind you, and now I can see why. To be wise enough to choose your timing and to some point even choose your battles is something I don't see very often. I have always believed in "doing business" that way, whether it really is business, or the business of living together happily. Kudos to you for that.
I am pretty rough on folks when they are sick, maybe because I have been the boss too long. I don't really want anyone's germs either, but in a small business, being one person short can make a mess of a day. It has always been my observation that too many call in too quickly, and so I probably take it too far the other way. I also have been extremely guilty of working when I had no business doing that. So yea, I get everything that you said. And grumble away, it's amazing how many fights have been avoided in my home, by me venting here intstead of out loud.
Hope partner gets better soon.
Have a really good day today. :)
Sorry about blogging in your box...someone,just shut me up!
Oh dearheart, you are having a rough week, aren't you? *Hugs*
I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner - but I went down to Cali to do some site visits for meetings next year.
You rant any time you need to blow off steam, that is what your blog is for, first and foremost, in my opinion. It's a diary of how you feel and what is going on in your life. I also think writing your feeling down about a subject like this is a good way of focusing your thoughts - so that when you ARE ready to talk to partner about things - you've arranged your thoughts so that they're coming from a place that is rational thinking, not just feelings.
I know what you mean about the sick thing, Clarke is such a bear when he's sick, and wants me to baby him and be super sweet to him, but when I am sick he gets impatient with me. He's good for about a day's worth of nursing, but after that he just gets pissed off. :)
love you dear, hope things are better soon.
fiwa
i sympathise brad, i once watched a pot of money disappear in a business venture and 'i told you so' didn't seem kind at the end of it. but i bl**dy well did tell him so, too, and that happened while pregnant with the trips. wow, now touched a nerve! being ill (or pregnant) makes everything worse imo! good luck!
ps even we read about usa bees in the uk papers...
I've heard that the dying bees are creating a very threatening effect on the environment. If they don't pollinate then the flora will die off and I guess the sun will burn everything up. Steve was swarmed by killer bees and had that terrible accident but I don't think that's what's going on in Seattle right now.
I hate it when Steve gets sick. I can't stand to hear him whine. Ick.
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